My Life Being Renewed: "They'll either want to kill you, kiss you, or be you."

"They'll either want to kill you, kiss you, or be you."

November 24, 2013



{Necklace-  City Lights by JewelMint, Shirt- Target by Mossimo}

Hi Lovelies- hope that you are doing well!! 

I wanted to talk to you today about something that is extremely frustrating to me and wondered if maybe any of you have experienced it as well. People who are rude no matter how nice you are to them-whether it be a stranger, co-worker, friend or relative- that's what I want to talk about today. This has been an on-going issue that I have faced in life more times than I care to count and I can't figure out why..

Ask anyone who knows me, and they will tell you that I am a very nice and compassionate person, I am always the first person there to listen when someone needs a listening ear, the first one to send a thank you card, the first person there to help someone in need- I don't do it to receive anything back or to get praise- it's just who I have always been. So why is it that there are always those certain people that seem to want to be rude no matter how nice you are to them?? It just baffles me to no end, I think I just don't get it because they are so different from me, because I would never be rude or mean to a person especially if they go out of their way to show kindness to me- instead I would tell them thank you and try to return the favor. The honest truth is, I most likely will never understand this type of behavior. I do have a couple of ideas of why someone would act this way - 1-they are very unhappy and want to make others as unhappy as they are or 2- they are jealous of your life and what you have.



{This sums it up}

All that I know to do is to remain true to who I am and not allow others unhappiness/misery to change or affect me. I just keep on smiling and keep being kind anyway. BUT, I have learned to take myself out of the equation once I learn that a person is just going to be negative and judgmental no matter what I do. The last thing that I want to be around is negative and draining people- I love being happy and positive about life! I am the type of person who can find the silver lining in any situation! Another great thing about me, is that I am accustomed to being on my own and I enjoy my solitude, so staying to myself has never been an issue. 

I am finally learning to not let it bother me if others can't appreciate me for who I am- I count it as their loss, not mine. This is a huge step for me because I used to blame myself when people would treat me this way- my first question used to be "what did I do or what is wrong with me to make them not like me?" now my first question is, "what is wrong with them that they don't like me?" So that is a huge improvement! 

The upside to this post is that I do have several positive people in my life who are extremely supportive and love me for who I am- if I didn't have anyone saying positive things about me and appreciating me, then maybe I might question myself. But thank goodness, the people that love and appreciate me outweighs those very few that dislike me for no reason. And that my friends, is the silver lining to this story..

Have you ever faced this issue in your life and if so, how did you handle it?



5 comments:

  1. you can't let it bother you, and stay true to yourself!
    xo Jessica
    www.NewlyLoved.com

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  2. Jessica, thank you:)
    Love your blog btw, and I'm following you on FB!

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  3. I loved this article. You took the words right out of my mouth. I guess it depends on people and their environment, upbringing and also how they handle stress, emotion and anger. People nowadays have lost the soul and heart to actually caring for another human being sadly and it's rare to find someone who isn't there in your life without an objective. Nice people exist and I guess when you find people who you can love keep them. The rest it takes out mental strength to be strong. People like us who are kind to everyone and everything in life are the strongest and people like to test their waters on such people. Unfortunately. So let the cruelty of people NOT reign us rare folk down. A lesson I coming to learn at the age of 3O this year.

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